Motivating kids can be a hell of a job we all know. Kids have whims and fancies of their own.
What do they do the most?
Exactly what you want them to do the least.
And what do they do the least?
Exactly what you want them to do the most.
Well we know how to simplify this and get your kids to cooperate with you. Here is how:
1- Talk it out and loud
Meaningful conversations with parents can mean a lot to kids. It is their age to be curious about everything interesting and New. It is how you introduce them to a task that matters.
For instance while asking them to clean up their room tell them how important it is to have a neat and clean room.
While they are at their task be around ask then how it feels to do the job at hand or do they need any help.
Another thing is to encourage by way of complimenting. Even if the task is not perfect that fact that the kid tried is worth appreciating.
2- Imperfections are perfect
Imperfect completion of task shows the attempt made. Perfect or imperfect is secondary. Appreciate your child's efforts rather than finding faults.
Criticism will drive them away from every task you assign them.
So let the imperfect tasks flow in and wait till your child the same task perfectly after a few attempts.
3- Practice what you preach
It is said that if you want to teach your child a particular thing just do it in front of him. So if you don't want you child to fight try to control the urge to get into a fight with your spouse too. Instead display a cordial and peaceful way of resolving fights.
Hoe many times do you ask your child to give you a second while you are busy with some work and don't go back to him for more than half an hour or more? A child learns the same thing. Next time you ask him to pull out of the park he will say one second and may not be ready to come out for more than half an hour. You taught him this by doing it with him.
So beware of what you are subconsciously teaching your child.
4- Don't buy their services
Stop bribing your child into doing things. Because this will only lead to them not performing their duties when not bribed.
Always encourage them, praise them and tell them the importance of the work that they do instead of buying their services.
This can lead you into many problems as the child grows and starts asking you for bigger and costlier stuff in return for work that they should anyways be doing and learning.
5- Find out the right task
Every child can't be interested in everything. So spend time and put in effort to find out what is your child's favorite activity.
You can then focus more on the activity that your child likes and introduce the others later. Go step by step.
6- Appreciate appreciate appreciate
Yes appreciation works wonder in motivating a child. Appreciate the small things that your child does. Like filling up a bottle and keeping it in the fridge or behaving well in a party.
Kids always want to impress their parents and appreciation makes them feel they have and encourages them to keep up the good work.
Dealing with kids only needs a little bit of patience. Teachers at Billabong High International School have what it takes to guide a child right. Billabong school Thane believes in making the beautiful growing up journey of every child and parent a smooth and wonderful experience.